As a couple, it is easy to wake up one day and find ourselves far
off-track from where we intended to be. At the beginning of any
relationship we all have great ideals of how the future will be, but
without the right plan it can be difficult to achieve these.

This week, take some time out to tell each other what you would
consider to be your perfect relationship. Start by separately making a
list of everything you perceive would be in a perfect relationship.

Some examples may include the following…

• We both enjoy a sunset dinner one time a month.
  
• He helps with housework when I need it.
  
• She makes dinner every night.
  
• We make love at least three times a week.
  
• We always kiss before parting.
  
• She asks how my day went.
  
• He gives me a hug first thing when he comes home.
  

Make your list as detailed as possible. Add everything you think of,
even it feels insignificant or silly. When you’re done compare lists.
First, look for common items that appear in both lists. Those should be
the first things that are placed in the final list.

Then, talk about your other ideals and come to compromises or
agreements as to whether to keep them on the final list or not. When
you are done you will have a blueprint for your personal perfect
relationship. Whenever things start to feel off-track, take some time
to review your list together and see where things have changed from
your original thoughts and considerations. It is much easier to see
where things have changed, and communicate your concerns to your
partner, when they are written right in front of you.